So we all know I’m unemployed, well the other day I received my official denied letter from the Virginia Unemployment Commission. The letter goes to a tune of:

“Based on facts obtained in connection with this claim for unemployment compensation filed effective XX/XX/XX, the undersigned deputy pursuant to section 60.2-618(1) of the Virginia Unemployment Compensation Act renders the following determination:


And here was their reasoning behind my denial:

“The claimant voluntarily quit her employment with XXX on XX/XX/XX, to relocate with spouse who was in the military. There was no definite offer of work obtained before quitting.

Section 60.2-618(2) of the Virginia Unemployment Compensation Act provides a disqualification if an individual left work voluntarily without good cause. THe commission and the courts have consistently held that to show good cause the individual must prove both the existence of a reasonable employment dispute and that all reasonable alternatives were fully explored prior to quitting.

The Virginia unemployment Compensation Act provides a disqualification for benefits if an individual leaves work voluntarily to accompany or join a spouse in a new location. As a result benefits are denied.”

Now, my husband is active duty military and he received orders to bring us to Colorado Springs. We didn’t ask to come here, yet we pack up and move because the government told us to.  Yes, I voluntarily quit my job, what else could I do. Oh yeah, I could have broken up my family and sure enough I wouldn’t be unemployed. Possibly, divorced, but by George I wouldn’t be unemployed.

This is the most ridiculous law I’ve ever heard of. How is that not a good cause?! Virginia has the highest number of military members in a state, granted some are not residents of the state and are exempt on paying state taxes, but we as military spouses that work in the state are not exempt. I’ve paid taxes there for the past 4 years, I’ve never drawn unemployment from the state before, never taken any subsidized assistance and I’m not eligible!!! Then what do you have to do?

Not only do military members give up a lot for their country so do their spouses, children and families. I’ve given up jobs, I’m pretty sure I’ll never been in a job long enough to become vested until after my husband retires, and even then I will be so far behind the game that I’ll be working until my foot is in the grave. Not only do I sacrifice, my children do as well. My children have been in so many different schools, always having to uproot, make new friends and adjust to their surroundings. It’s taught them how to be more open, accept change and made them quite social bunnies. But at what cost?

The military asks us to move, and then says good luck with your life. At least that’s how it feels when you suddenly move, can’t find a job and are denied unemployment to help supplement your family. Every year, the military claims it’s year of the family, yet many states have yet to adopt the military spouse law that grants military spouses unemployment benefits. Not only that, the military spouse preference is a joke when it comes to spouses being hired for jobs on base. But that’s another story.

I’ve been fortunate that my husband hasn’t had to go on a lot of deployments, but he has had some, and I’ve played mother, father, sister, friend, supporter, provider and the list goes on. Do I complain? No, I cope. I cope because that’s what we do as spouses to the military.

Bottom line is the Virginia Unemployment Commission SUCKS!!!



It’s been a few days since I last wrote, and my status hasn’t changed, however, I am being more creative. Yesterday, I actually sewed a little pouch type thingy for my Kindle. I love reading! I bought the Kindle some months ago, but didn’t buy a case for it, so I thought it was high time I sewed something and what better project than sewing a bag for my Kindle.

Now the bag isn’t the best thing on the market, but if I keep trying I’m sure to pull off a masterpiece, something someone might one day decide to pay me for. Lord only knows. Anyway, I found some cute fabric at Joanne Fabrics. Black, white and yellow accented flowers with a black and white polka dot lining, I couldn’t resist. I brought the fabric home, cut out a little template and decided to try my hand at it. I think I’ve found a new love.

I bought my little Janome several years ago, and was going to start sewing but with work and kids and life, I didn’t really get around to it. My husband has been threatening to throw out all my numerous crafts I attempt to take on, but yesterday he was actually thrilled for me to have done something. Not to mention, it felt sooo good to have made something with my own hands. I think my next project will be a cute little purse or maybe even a dress for the little kid, I don’t know. What I do know is that, all of the time that I have, I’d be stupid not to take advantage of it.


Sleepy Time

One of the things I’m enjoying most about being on extended vacation is sleeping. I get all the extra sleep I want, which actually hasn’t amounted to much because there’s always something to do, but today I didn’t care about the bathroom that should have been cleaned, I didn’t care about the floors I could have mopped, I didn’t even care about the dinner that I should have been cooking for tonight. I went to sleep, and oh boy was it a good sleep.

I think my exhaustion comes from over exherting myself last night at school, yeah probably not, but any excuse makes me feel better. Anyway, I had school last night and it ended pretty early so I’m not really sure why I felt the need to go to sleep this afternoon. Pondering…ok the list, a list of things that should have made me sleepy but didn’t.

5 Reasons That Would Make Me Tired

5. Cleaning – well I already explained, I didn’t do any of that!

4. Sex – always stellar but wasn’t on the agenda for today

3. Exercise – if that includs lifting a coffee mug to your lips then this is on the wrong list

2. Errands – in this day and age, I can do just about anything from the comfort of my couch and computer

1. Work – that too is null, don’t have a job…didn’t even look for one

5 Things That DID Make Me Tired

5. Taking the kids to school – I still had to get dressed, DUH!

4. Homework – obviously, I’m a career student

3. Jack Abbott & Nick Newman – I’ve only just recently started back watching this and they both are complete jackassess! Sharon has moved on (did I actually say that) so should THEY!!!

2. Sharon Newman – she makes my brain hurt!!!

1. Talking to myself- everyone I know is at work, so who the hell can I talk to?

Anyway, I’m getting ready to watch Inglorious Basterds. Peace!!!



I’ve been unemployed since the end of July 2009. I left my job because my husband is military and we had to move. So my tale of unemployment isn’t the same as everyone else yet I’m still struggling to find a job. We moved to Colorado Springs, where I thought I’d be greeted with open arms to any job that I applied to.

Why did I think that? Well, two reasons. One, mainly because I have a good resume, great experience, prior military and yadayada, I could go on. The second reason, a little more vain but my reasoning nonetheless. I’ve never been on an interview, where I really wanted the job, and been denied. Even jobs that I DIDN’T want, I’ve always been offered a position. Of course I don’t think I’m above anyone else, but I always present myself well, show up dressed to the 9’s, and impress my potential employers.

SLAPPP!!!!! Reality hits like Tyson in his heyday.

I’d read about people losing their jobs left and right, but it never really affects you until it’s you standing in an unemployment line. Now, like I said, I could go on and on about the countless bullshit interviews I’ve been on, and some of them not so bullshit, but I won’t.

Looking on the bright side, maybe I should be home. I’ve always wanted to write, and do other random shit like sewing, scrapbooking, etc. and what better way to start than now, hell I have nothing else to do. Besides maybe catching up on Young & the Restless, which by the way, Sharon is a desperate broad that deserves what she gets and Phyllis should whoop Nick’s ass for always running back to Sharon. Isn’t that depressing, their fucked up lives are more interesting of my own. Well that’s TV for ya. Anyway, I’ve got 10 mins to search the internet for more interesting blogs before Let’s Make a Deal comes on.

Tata for now,


Panera Bread

Panera Bread is one of those places that I love to visit, because I feel so productive in what I’m doing. Right now I am sitting here in a Panera Bread looking at people come and go, act like they are working, when I know they are really surfing the internet and slacking off. Much like myself. I have tons of homework to do, yet I’m writing a single blog post on the realities of nothing. I call it the realities of nothing because it’s really not productive, conducive or morally satisfying. Ramble, ramble, ramble!! See what I mean?

It does smell good, I think they are making some kind of soup. Potato maybe? A cream porridge that satisfies the soul and adds five pounds, at least on me. But why is this important … it’s not, I just don’t have anything better to write. I could talk about the man I just met. I nice older white guy, George, I think he said his name was. But that matters not either. I’m bored, and my thoughts get jumbled and run on like incomplete sentences making absolutely no sense using no punctuation or rhyme or reason to make coherent sentences that one could completely understand without the use of me explaining myself or feeling like I should address the confused look on their faces as I fully and completely tell an absolute lie about why I”m suddenly feeling the need to write this down. WHEW!! Now see that’s how my life goes, in all directions, and for what reason? Maybe I will never know. Who cares if I do or don’t? It’s all complete irrelevant and useless.

This is what Panera does, or is this what life does?


First Post

What does one say in their first post? I’m guessing … hmmm. I’ve never been good at introducing myself but I’ll give it a shot. Practice does make perfect. (Whoever made up that lie?!)

I’m 30 years young, I have 2 daughters, 10 and 5. I’ve been married to the most wonderful man, that anyone could imagine, for almost 11 years.  I served in the Air Force for 6 years. I’m originally from Atlanta, go FALCONS!! I love reading and spending time with my folks and that’s me or that’s all I’m writing.

And this is my first post.


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